Stardew Valley – How to Have Kids

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Stardew Valley is a life simulator renowned for its really engaging NPCs and romanceable characters. As you get to know all the interesting villagers in Pelican Town, you might start considering starting a family with them.

If you managed to upgrade your Farmhouse to the maximum level, you might have noticed that there is a crib and two children’s beds in your house now.

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Once you marry one of the amazing residents of Pelican Town, you can try to have a baby together, even if you are of the same gender.

To have kids or a baby in Stardew Valley, you will need to have at least 10 hearts with your spouse, a crib in the house, and to have been married for at least 7 days. If you meet all of these criteria, there is a 5% chance that your spouse will ask you in the middle of the night if you want to have a baby.


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How to Have Kids in Stardew Valley

To actually have a chance of having kids in Stardew Valley, you will need to meet these special requirements:

  • Be married for at least 7 days and have at least 10 hearts with your spouse.
  • Upgrade Farmhouse at least twice to get the nursery room (room with crib and children’s beds).
  • Don’t remove the crib.

If you manage to meet all of these criteria, every night when you go to sleep there will be a 5% chance that your spouse will ask you “Should we have a baby?” or “Should we adopt a baby?”

You can only adopt a baby if you and your spouse have the same gender. Otherwise, you will always have your own biological kids.

If you say yes to the proposition, you will have to wait 14 days for the baby to “to be born/adopted” (appear in the crib). The process is exactly the same whether you adopt or you have your own baby in Stardew Valley.

You can only have two children in Stardew Valley. One will be male, and one will be female. If your firstborn is male, then your second one will automatically be female, and vice versa.

Kids only have 4 growth stages and, unfortunately, there aren’t a lot of ways you can interact with them.

You can only have the second child once the firstborn reaches the 4th growth stage, making them a toddler.

In Multiplayer, players will have to meet the exact same criteria to get the question.

The main player will first get the question and, if they say yes, the other player will also get the question. If they both say yes, the baby will appear in the crib after 14 days.

Can’t Have Kids Even After Meeting the Requirements?

One thing you should consider when wanting to have a baby in Stardew Valley is that the 5% chance to get one is really slim.

There are players that have met all of the requirements and still haven’t gotten the question in over a year. If this happens to you, just have patience.

Usually, if you do everything right, you should get the question in a month or two. Make sure that all the criteria from above are met.


How to Raise Kids in Stardew Valley – Growth Stages, Friendship, and What They Can Do

After a baby is born or adopted in Stardew Valley, it will just sleep in the crib. This is the first growth stage of children in the game.

For exactly 14 days, they will just sleep all the time. If you interact with them, you will just get a prompt saying that they are sleeping.

You will realize 14 days have passed when you see the baby standing up inside the crib. This means that you have reached stage two, which also lasts 14 days.

During this time, you can interact with the baby to pick them up and throw them in the air for friendship points.

For stage 3, the baby will be out of the crib and will start crawling around the house by themselves. You can also play with them during this stage, which lasts 28 days (a full season).

At the last stage, the toddler will run around the house, sleep in a single bed, and you can interact with them as you would with villagers or animals to increase your relationship with them.

Friendship with your kids in Stardew Valley is very similar to that with normal villagers.

Unfortunately, there are no heart events. Still, you will start at stage 2 with 1 heart with the child and then the friendship will decay every day you don’t interact with them. Once you get to 10 hearts, the decay will stop.

You can’t give your kids any gifts in Stardew Valley and you can’t really talk to them. Kids are more like your pet cat or dog than villagers, as you can just interact with them once a day and that’s it.


How to Put Hats on Kids

One of the only things you can do to make your kids cooler in Stardew Valley is to place hats on top of their heads.

You can easily do this by holding a hat in your hands and right-clicking on the child.

The hat will pop on the kid’s head and will stay there forever unless you remove it. You can do this by holding a different hat and clicking on the kid.

This will remove the hat, allowing you to put a new one on their head. Only toddlers (stage 4 kid) can wear hats.


How to Get Rid of Kids

You can get rid of children in Stardew Valley in the late game if you reach the Witch’s Hut.

Inside the hut, there is a statue on the left called the Dark Shrine of Selfishness, which will turn your kids into doves for a Prismatic Shard.

If you do this, you will see doves appear in front of you that will start flying away and you will get a message saying goodbye to the kids.

This will remove them forever from your game, allowing you to either get new kids or just live a simple life without children.

Turning your kids into doves can actually get you to see a lot of easter eggs, as they may even appear at the end of the game, flying in formation at the Summit.

Most of the other easter eggs are relatively terrifying, as the game will try to make you regret your decision.


That’s everything you need to know about how to have kids in Stardew Valley!

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Adrian Oprea

Based in London, United Kingdom, Adrian Oprea is a Guides Writer. As a professional single-player RPG player, Adrian has often been stigmatized. He has decided to pour his frustration into writing guides!

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